What I’ve learned on my travels

Posted by on Apr 9, 2009 in Uncategorized | 4 Comments


Over the last few weeks, I've been travelling quite a lot.

Superficially, it's so that others can hear what passes for my wisdom but to be honest, I always hope to learn more from interacting with other folk, either:

1. from what they have to say for themselves
2. from what they have to say in response to my stuff
3. from what emerges generally in interaction with other folk and other cultures

This jaunt seems to have to taught me a couple of really important things that I thought worth sharing. So here goes:

a. There's a widespread feeling that things don't work like they're supposed to (in particular, as James suggests they-out-there are moving away from us)
b. The social thing is now widely accepted (or more specifically no longer rejected out of hand)
but there are still some pretty wierd ideas around (e.g. there MUST be "special" individuals, mustn't there?)
c. there are still a lot of folk trying to squeeze the social stuff into old "I" models and frameworks ("We" as an additive to persuasion marketing, anyone?)

If there is one little mantra which I've found helps shift thinking and practice, it's this:

Whatever you want to do, do it "with" people, (not "to" or "at" them)

What do you think?


  1. Steven Devijver
    April 9, 2009

    Wonderful mantra, I love it! It really puts a lot of different ideas in perspective. I’ll try it out.

  2. david
    April 10, 2009

    i think that is exactly right. i heard the poet robert creeley read
    once “we disappears with the use of us and them”.
    always seemed like a credo for decent communication and adverts.

  3. Business Coach
    April 18, 2009

    I totally agree with the affirmation, I wrote a blog post a little while ago with similar sentiments, I’d had an experience of being sold “at” it was horrible !
    you can read it here: http://managementmatters.jimdo.com/2009/03/11/networking-meetings-return-on-investment/

  4. Suzanah
    April 18, 2009

    “Whatever you want to do, do it “with” people, (not “to” or “at” them)”
    I found your blog through a twitter contact who posted this quote (@thedeeperwell).
    It’s perfect. Thank you for sharing it.